Married? In a relationship? Dating? If you want to have a successful relationship, you have to pay attention. If you’re in an unhappy relationship, you need this advice immediately. If you are in a happy relationship, you need to start doing these things in order to avoid becoming unhappy. If you are dating, you should keep these in mind in order to put your future relationship on the right track for success.
1. Check in and take responsibility
2. Go backwards
3. Create new habits
4. Be empathetic
1. CHECK IN and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
Check in with yourself- how you are feeling and what you need?
Be honest with yourself and then with them. Take responsibility for your contribution to the disconnection
2. GO BACKWARDS
You don’t want to move forward from where you are. You need to go backwards- and re-find the appreciation for who you fell for in the first place.
Get on the same page with your relationship goals- as you do when you first get engaged.
Put effort into yourself again and put effort into your marriage again.
3. CREATE NEW HEALTHY COUPLE HABITS
Come up with a plan- including:
1. Monthly Check-in’s
2. Weekly Date Nights
3. Nightly “Thank You’s”
4. Seasonal Couple Vacations
This is about creating time and space for you two to be honest, connect, and appreciate each other for all that you are and all that you do.
4. Be EMPATHETIC
Put yourself in each other’s shoes in order to really feel what they are feeling. How would you feel if he/she said, did, treated you the way that you have treated them? Truly allow yourself to mentally experience what your partner has received from you so that you can understand how that makes them feel.
Communication is not effective when it is passive. When you need to talk about something important, something that matters, something that has heat around it, it’s essential that you address it when you are both open to talk and when you are open to calmly talk and receive. Communicate your feelings with your partner in a non-heated (which doesn’t mean cold) way. Check in with yourself about what the point of the conversation is. Don’t be reactive. Instead, respond. Do you want to help your partner understand? Do you want to get your point across? Do you want to stop fighting? Then have the conversation when you can most effectively make that happen.